Leo, a sexologist with over 10 years of experience in sex education.

 

Hi everyone, today I'm going to talk about sex positions. I'll cover as many as possible — from the most popular, common positions to less common ones and some variants that may help you gain stamina, reach your partner's happy spot more easily, and increase both of your happiness. I'll keep updating positions in this blog, so you may find something new the next time you come back.

1. Missionary

The number one position definitely goes to Missionary. This term likely originated from mid‑20th‑century anthropologists (like Alfred Kinsey) who claimed that Christian missionaries in the South Pacific encouraged this specific "face‑to‑face" alignment as the only appropriate method for procreation. So basically, one partner lies on their back while the other is on top, facing them.
I start with Missionary because it is easy and involves eye contact. You can kiss, see the pleasure and satisfaction on your partner's face, and increase intimacy.

Pro tip: Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to tilt the pelvis. This changes the angle and can help the penetrating partner reach the G‑spot more easily (for vulva owners) or provide a better angle for prostate stimulation.

2. Doggy style

This one has a literal descriptive name: one partner is on their hands and knees while the other approaches from behind. Many people rate Doggy Style as a favorite because it allows deep penetration and the angle naturally hits the front wall of the vagina (where the G‑spot lives) or the prostate (for anal penetration). For vulva owners, this position is often cited as one of the easiest to reach orgasm during penetration because the angle and depth provide consistent G‑spot stimulation.

Pro tip: This position can also decrease the impact of penis size. Unlike other positions where hips or pubic bones can limit full insertion, Doggy Style allows for deeper penetration regardless of size — which can be a confidence booster for some and a pleasure enhancer for both.

3. Cowgirl & Reverse Cowgirl (Riding)

This one is often called "riding" — if you search for videos, "riding" is the keyword. In this position, one partner lies on their back while the other sits on top, facing them (cowgirl) or facing away (reverse cowgirl). The partner on top has full control of the rhythm, depth, and angle, so they can target their own happy spots — whether that's the G‑spot, clitoral grinding, or a different internal area. The partner lying down can take a break while watching the beautiful view.

Pro tip: For vulva owners who need clitoral stimulation, try leaning forward in cowgirl and grinding your hips rather than bouncing up and down. This creates friction against the pubic bone and can be extremely effective.

 

4. Spooning

This one looks more like a cuddle — but it is a sexy cuddle. Two people lie on their sides, facing the same direction, with one "nestled" against the back of the other. Spooning is low‑effort and great for lazy mornings or winding down at night. It also allows the penetrating partner to reach the G‑spot or prostate easily because the angle naturally tilts the pelvis.

Pro tip: The receiving partner can tilt their hips slightly forward to change the angle. This small adjustment can make a big difference in how deep and where the stimulation lands.

 

5. 69

69 is a classic. The name is a numerical metaphor (the numbers resemble two people facing each other's genitals). This position is essentially mutual oral sex — both partners give and receive at the same time. If you enjoy giving oral and want to receive simultaneously, this is the one to go to.

Pro tip: It can be physically demanding to hold the position for a long time. Try lying on your sides instead of one on top of the other — it reduces neck strain and makes it easier to focus on pleasure.

 

6. Lotus

Lotus is a good position for intimacy: one partner sits cross‑legged, and the other sits in their lap, wrapping their legs around the first partner's waist. It allows deep eye contact, kissing, and slow, sensual movement. However, it may require a certain length for comfortable penetration — otherwise, the receiving partner might not get enough stimulation. That said, you can adapt by using pillows or changing the angle.

 

7. Scissors

Scissoring might be one of the most mythical sex acts — as iconic as it is controversial. Each partner spreads their legs and brings their genitals together, with one partner usually on their back and the other on their side. It is often associated with two vulva owners because two clitorises can be rubbed together more easily, but it can also work for penis‑in‑vagina or anal penetration if the angle is right. Some people love it; others find it awkward. Worth trying once to see if it works for you.

8. Standing

Last but not least in this article: Standing. This is one of the more physically demanding positions. Both partners stand facing each other, and one partner wraps a leg around the other's hip or uses a wall for support. It can be exciting for quick, passionate encounters, but it drains energy quickly — not just stamina, but general muscle endurance. Definitely a "sometimes" position, not an everyday one.

So in conclusion, I made a table here to let you know each position better — by difficulty, beginner-friendliness, and my personal recommendation. I hope this article and this chart can help you somehow. If you want to practice before the real fight to surprise your partner or you are alone, try here.

Position	Difficulty	Beginner-Friendly	My Recommendation
Missionary	★☆☆☆☆	★★★★★	★★★★☆
Doggy Style	★★☆☆☆	★★★★☆	★★★★★
Cowgirl / Reverse Cowgirl	★★★☆☆	★★★★☆	★★★★☆
Spooning	★★☆☆☆	★★★★★	★★★★★
69	★★★☆☆	★★★☆☆	★★★☆☆
Lotus	★★★★☆	★★☆☆☆	★★☆☆☆
Scissors	★★★☆☆	★★☆☆☆	★★☆☆☆
Standing	★★★★★	★☆☆☆☆	★★☆☆☆